When Mr. Big jilted Carrie on their wedding day, her three friends canceled their plans and flew with her to Mexico on what was supposed to be her honeymoon. Many of us, however, are not fortunate enough to have the luxury of traveling after a traumatizing or stressful situation. Many of us don’t have the luxury of loyal friends these days, even.
Furthermore, while it seems like it is for some Instagram stars, god knows life is nowhere near as glamorous or fun as a Sex and the City movie. How do these guys do it? How can they get up, get fresh and snap that picture with the lovely view, snatched body and sexy expression?
First of all, stop comparing yourself to others. Each one of us is going their own path here. While some of us have more privilege, none of us have to be anybody’s second choice, especially their own. What you have to do is develop self awareness; know yourself. If you’re a young gay man, don’t be so hard on yourself. The stressful situations in your life always seem like the end of the world when you’re younger, and that’s not due to age. It’s simply due to the fact that generally age accumulates experiences. The more experiences you have, the better you’ll get at handling challenging situations. Then you’ll know yourself better–develop that self awareness.
Self awareness will help you stay calm on bad days. On those days, by the time your most pressing responsibilities are completed, you will know what you have to do to make up for the bad time. Some of us like to Netflix and chill, others might want a drink with friends. Whatever it is that makes you happy, or relieves the tension, you’ll know and do. Self care truly comes from knowing what makes you zig and what makes you zag; what makes you happy and what makes you sad.
Whether you’re a “day at the spa” kind of gay man, or a “Spiderman on PS4” kind of gay man, figure it out ASAP and start making time for it. Don’t forget to keep trying new things. Save a budget, even a small one for monthly shopping. Going to stores and spending your hard-earned money is something you deserve.
Self care is not limited to a massage or a manicure, it really is about giving the most important person in your life—you—the quality time they deserve.
How do you take care of yourself? Let us know on twitter @GayBoyBible